Hey friends. I’m in a weird place. I’m getting calls from agents. I’m meeting “must-know” people. I’m being invited to speak. It’s really flattering, and my ego is purring like a kitten in a sunbeam.

But I’m still a disaster. My body is exhausted and gaining weight. I still really don’t know what I’m doing. Some of my friends are teasing me that I’m becoming a “celeb” while others roll their eyes. I’m in a really open and vulnerable place where the wrong people could jump in and totally take advantage of me. I don’t know whom to trust and whom to be suspicious of.

Most of all, I’m not 100% sure that know who I am right now. Is identity just a matter of claiming who you want to be and sticking to it? Is it ignoring the labels others put on you and replacing them with your own, however arbitrary? Is that all it is? Could anything that relative, subjective, and self-defined be in any way true?

What do you think? What changes — or what can change — who you are?